Resources for Men
The SAIV-RT is
Although the Women’s Center on campus is focused primarily on helping students who identify as female—due to the fact that women are more likely to be victims of sexual assault and interpersonal violence—this does not mean that men are excluded from discussions, activities, or from receiving help. Men can experience sexual assault and interpersonal violence as well, and deserve to be heard and helped.
The SAIV-RT can:
- help you file a formal report with the University or obtain a no-contact order;
- assist you in contacting the police or obtain a protective order;
- accompany you to the hospital, health clinic, or police department;
- obtain special campus-related accommodations;
- connect you with on-campus or off-campus counseling
Events for Men
The Men’s Project
The Men’s Project is a sexual assault primary prevention program for college men. Over the course of eight weeks, male students explore issues related to masculinity, gender-based violence, and responses to the breadth and depth of sexual assault. Topics include reducing sexism, the rape myth, androcentric language, coercion in intimate relationships, feminism, bystander intervention, egalitarianism in relationships, and the reduction of sexual assault. It is a safe space for men to connect and learn about these issues, while also discussing their own thoughts and experiences with them. It is open to anyone who identifies as male. Participants can be of any sexual orientation.
Suggestions are Welcome
In collaboration with the Women’s Center, the SAIV-RT is always seeking for ways to reach out to men, discuss topics that interest them, and provide resources that speak to their needs. If you have a suggestions, contact a Student Ambassador of the Women’s Center. If you would like to remain anonymous, there is a suggestion box located by the entrance of the Women’s Center.
10 Things Men Can Do to Prevent Gender Violence
1. Approach sexism and gender violence as men’s issues.
These involves men of all ages, socioeconomic statuses, sexual orientations, races, and ethnic backgrounds. Not all men are perpetrators or possible offenders of sexism and gender violence, but all men can be empowered-bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
2. Don’t remain silent.
Challenge sexists jokes, sexist comments, or other abusive language. When a family member, a friend, a classmate, a coworker, or a teammate is being disrespectful or abusive to women, talk to him about it. Express your concern. The conversation may not be easy, but it is necessary. Keep in mind that he might get defensive and/or hostile.
3. Have the courage to look inward.
Question your own attitudes about women. Don’t be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might inadvertently perpetuate sexism and violence, and work toward changing them.
4. Ask how you can help others.
If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help. Familiarize yourself with the resources available through the SAIV-RT and offer to assist her in contacting them.
5. Seek professional help immediately if you are abusive to women or have been in the past.
Resources are available to help you. The SAIV-RT can help you navigate your options.
6. Be an ally to women who are working to end all forms of gender violence.
Support the work of the Women’s Center, NOW, F.E.M.A.L.E.S., M.A.L.E.S. and other gender equity-based clubs on campus. Attend Take Back the Night rallies and Walk a Mile in Her Shoes marches. Raise money for community-based rape crisis centers and battered women’s shelters.
7. Speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing.
Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays are wrong in and of themselves. This abuse often has a direct link to sexism, in that the sexual orientation of men who speak out against sexism is often questioned in an attempt to silence them. This is a key reason that so few men do speak up. They feel their sexuality and masculinity is in-question. Learn about how you can help the LGBTQ+ community by connecting with the Pride Room. You do not neet to identify as LGBTQ+ to support their efforts.
8. Gain more knowledge about multicultural masculinity, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Attend programs, watch films, and read articles or books about these issues. Participate in the Men’s Project, the White Ribbon Campaign, the 10×10 Campaign, training sessions, and other initiatives. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
9. Don’t fund sexism.
Refuse to purchase any magazines, watch any videos, subscribe to any sites, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media through online movements held by Miss Representation and similar organizations.
10. Lead by example.
Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men’s groups.
Always remember that you are not speaking out because it makes you a hero, or because you’re saving a woman with chivalry, or because you want a pat on the back. You are speaking out because it is the right thing to do. It is a meaningful way to do your part in ending violence against women.