A Guide for Parents

 A Guide for Parents

Welcome, Parents, Friends, and Loved Ones!

The Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) considers you to be an important part of our student’s well-being and success at Eastern. As loved ones, it can be difficult to know when to get involved and when to maintain your distance. The CAPS is available to help your son or daughter (or family member) with any personal concerns or challenges of student life. CAPS is aware that running into challenges is common in college and there is no problem or issue that is “too small” to discuss. Our staff includes licensed professionals (i.e. psychologist and social worker) with expertise in college mental health issues.

All matriculated Eastern Connecticut State University students are eligible for counseling and psychiatric services free of charge. The CAPS offers a variety of services including individual, group and couples counseling, psychiatric services, crisis intervention, and outreach and consultation with faculty, staff, and family members.

To become more acquainted with our services, please visit the “Counseling Service” link in our web page.

Confidentiality. If your loved one is already working with us, please know that CAPS adheres to Connecticut’s confidentiality laws and the ethical standards of their respective professions that do not permit us to disclose information about our clients without their written permission.

If you wish to consult with someone about Eastern’s Counseling Service please call (860) 465-0181 and we can arrange for someone to call you back.

Signs That Your Loved One May Need Services

Please keep in mind that this is not intended to be an exhaustive list of signs and symptoms.

Academic Signs:

  • Excessive absences from classes
  • Decline in academic performance and/or academic probation
  • Poor concentration or low motivation in classes
  • Contemplation of dropping out of school, worrying about academic failure, or considering transferring to another school
  • Difficulties selecting a major

Psychological/Physical Signs:

  • Noticeable changes in physical appearance or hygiene
  • Unusual or exaggerated emotional responses
  • Recent increase or decrease in weight
  • Complaints of tension headaches, sleep disturbance, stomach distress, etc.
  • Changes in mood, motor activity, or behavior
  • Irritability and crying bouts
  • Drinking (or drug use) that appears to be impacting overall functioning

Other Signs:

  • Alluding to suicide or life being “over”
  • Coming home every weekend
  • Relationship issues
  • Withdrawal from family, friends or loved ones
  • Tearfulness or intense emotions

If you have any of these concerns, we encourage you to contact the CAPS for a consultation.

Important Offices and Telephone Numbers

Become aware of campus services before a crisis arises. Below you will find a listing of important offices on campus that can also assist with your son’s or daughter’s needs on campus.

Office of the Vice President for Student Affairs

Office of Public Safety
860-465-0242 (Confidential Hot Line)

Office of Health Services

Office of AccessAbility Services

Office of Housing and Residential Life

Office of Financial Aid

Web sites

College Parents of America: http://www.collegeparents.org

National Resource Center for First-Year Experience and Students in Transition: http://www.sc.edu/fye/index.html

Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG): http://www.pflag.org/

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

Suggested Readings

The Coddling of the American Mind, by Jonathan Haidt & Greg Lukianoff (2018)

College of the Overwhelmed: The Campus Mental Health Crisis and What to Do About It, by Richard Kadison, M.D. & Theresa Foy DiGeronimo (2004)

Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years, by Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger (Harper, 2003)

Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years, by Helen E. Johnson & Christine Schelhas-Miller (St. Martin’s Press, 2000).

When Your Kid Goes to College: A Parent’s Survival Guide, by Carol Barkin (1999).